Destiny and Relationships

For me, Destiny is when everything falls right into place and it’s just up to you to make it happen.

Destiny won’t be the one to lead you to the man who is perfect for you. No matter how perfect a man is for you and you don’t love them, nothing would still happen to the both of you.

You will never expect love at its best, but who ever you choose will always prevail. There's no such thing as destiny. There are only different choices... Some choices are easy, some are hard. These are really the important ones that define us as people. Maybe it’s not the happiest of endings but it's the right one.

I totally agree with this quote that says:
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE."

And I got a word from the wise that:
"A relationship comes from two people loving, respecting and enjoying each other’s company. That’s it. Sex is a huge bonus and for most of us it’s a part of a good relationship, but it is not the basis of one."

My Ideal Guy

August 10, 2005 – This was the day I wrote a very important list. A list that will be my guide in having a boyfriend. A list that may serve as my eye opener to the reality that I'll be facing soon in my life... This may seem funny or overly acting but these were my thoughts on this day...

In a guy, physically he must be:
  1. taller than me
  2. fair or white complexion
  3. thin lips
  4. smiling eyes
  5. smiling face
  6. straight eyebrows
  7. not fat and not thin
  8. little muscles
  9. not with kinky hair
  10. neat looking
  11. presentable
  12. nice nose
  13. no bad body odor

His characteristics must be:
  1. honest
  2. respectful
  3. open
  4. trustworthy
  5. affectionate
  6. sweet
  7. romantic
  8. demonstrative
  9. loving
  10. thoughtful
  11. responsible
  12. open-minded
  13. has initiative
  14. optimistic
  15. loyal in loving – one woman man
  16. understanding
  17. good sense of humor
  18. God fearing
  19. patient
  20. kind
  21. calm
  22. humble
  23. committed
  24. has time for me
  25. hard working
  26. not boring to be with
  27. accepts me for who I am
  28. accepts my family
  29. accepts my relatives
  30. accepts my friends
  31. good family background
  32. introduces me to his family
  33. introduces me to his friends
  34. a gentleman
  35. remembers occasions
  36. a good comforter
  37. know when to talk and when to be quiet
  38. not fond of cursing
  39. encourages me
  40. gives support
  41. appreciates my efforts
  42. stands up for me
  43. not fond of making fun of others
  44. loves dogs
  45. loves kids
  46. goes out with my family
  47. goes out with my friends
  48. brings me along with his friends
  49. loves music
  50. loves to watch movies
  51. makes me feel special
  52. not self-centered
  53. knows how to let down his pride
  54. holds my hand when we walk together
  55. goes to church with me
  56. vocal with his feelings
  57. loves to hug me
  58. thinks about our future
  59. plans about our future
  60. includes me in his decisions
  61. willing to wait for me patiently

Other characteristics:
  1. older than me
  2. not vain with his looks
  3. no children with other women
  4. has a stable job
  5. knows how to spend money wisely
  6. knows when to be practical
  7. does not smoke
  8. drinks occasionally
  9. does not take prohibited drugs

Hmm?... these are the things that I was looking for in a guy...

I found this kind of guy but he was not who I think who he was...

I fell in love with wrong men...

I fell in love with men who does not pass to the categories that I'm looking for...

For short, I fell in love unconsciously.

Love is not blind... it just doesn't mind.

Now that I'm single again, I hope and pray that I will meet the kind of man who passes my list.

He may not necessarily be perfect, but if he is close to perfect, then he must be it!

If not, then I'll wait for the man who truly deserves me.

But my question is... Does this kind of man exist? Only God can tell... :)

Ha. Ha. Very Funny

I've read the break-up letter of my ex again
And it made me laugh at last... hehe!

Some line says...
"We have to move on.
I'm sorry for all my shortcomings...
I'm not suited for you.
I guess this is the time to bid goodbye...
You are such a wonderful and nice person
I've ever met.
I know there is a lot in store for you...
Thank you for all the happiness
You brought into my life...
That I will always keep and cherish.
May God bless us all..."

Nice one!

May I ask...
When is one suited for someone else?
Is there such thing to say "this is" the time to bid goodbye?
If I were wonderful and nice, how come they left me?
What's in store for me that I'm broken hearted?
Am I just someone else's toy to give happiness?
Will I keep the hurt I have inside?
That all the cherished moments breaks my heart so bad?

Hmmm?...

I'll be okay.. I can do this!
If they are happy right now, why can't I be?!
Yeah... Things happen for a reason on a season??
Ha ha! Yeah right... :p

A Poem to My Beloved

Anyway... I'd like to thank you
For all the sweet memories that you have given me.
Wherever I go, what ever I do,
I am happy for my thoughts are with you.

To the places we've been,
To the memories that I can never forget
I'll always treasure
And keep it in my heart forever.

Since you're in a new land and you've met a lot of different people
I'm happy for you...
Though I know you've moved on your way,
And for that, I cannot make you stay.

Though I love you so deeply,
In my heart you still stay
And I know in time
These feelings will fade away...

So I wish you all the best
And I hope you'll never forget
That the time I've spent with you were cherished
And my feelings were true.

And when the time comes
That you go back to your native land
I hope you'll never forget
To visit an old friend...

Take care...
I wish you all the best.
May God bless us all..
And I'll be missing you...